While we talk endlessly about basic human needs through psychological theories or simply in our daily conversations with other people, we often miss out on that one thing. Majority of the gossip or back bitching we do about the people around us universally revolve around one major aspect that is the other person’s need for power and control whether it is by putting others down, trying nasty tricks to get what they want or simply trying to create a lobby through favoritism and flattery in their respective areas of concern.
Yes, It’s the Power Hunger that I am talking about. Let’s get it straight. Each one us has either been a victim or a part of it be it in our school teams, college, office, relatives or even in our close-knit friends group. There is always someone who tries to control, there is always someone who wants to control and others who want to but have seemingly lesser chances often end up being a side-kick to someone or trying the age-old sweet technique of divide and rule.
We always discuss and write about the simpler human emotions of love, kindness, hatred, jealousy, ego but often miss out on this essential nature of seeking control over or dominating the other person. It ruthlessly takes a toll over a person’s good senses, soon entering and poisoning the most loving and selfless of relationships.
Although, an extremely evil emotion, every person has it in them, the magnitudes might differ. But I seriously pity those who readily trust the ones who claim (read: pretend) to dislike any sort of attention or importance despite endlessly hogging all the lime light, all the time and in some cases ‘of others’.
What we fail to understand is the adverse effects of this nature over the physical and mental well-being of a person. If the person succeeds in gaining it, it improves the person’s confidence, social behavior, mental health, productivity but might turn into vanity if he/she is unable to handle it. While if the person fails to gain it, he/she ends up becoming, bitter, pessimistic, under-confident, hopeless and anxious. Extreme cases of this may lead to mental illnesses like depression, suicidal tendencies and other severe disorders.
Is there a way to improve this situation? I don’t think so as it is deeply ingrained in our natures. If at all we try, the only way is to completely stop caring about what others think of you, how much importance they give to you, your opinions or your work and also the random spans of isolation one might experience. I know the above mentioned list sounds difficult (for me: impossible!) but we can always start with working on our self-confidence, self-love, motivations, talents, self- assurance and stop being too available for people who don’t deserve it!